The power is in what you can control!
Last week I was in Kauai, HI. The week was one of the best weeks of my life. It made me realize so many things ..how simple things can be and most importantly the power of focusing on what I can control (my thoughts and actions).
I was in Hawaii with my Husband and our two friends to do a relationship workshop. The workshop was around intimacy and boy did it get intimate…It really forced me to dive deep and talk about my deepest darkest fears…and I realized these were irrational fears and that again I have control over how I think about it…even being vulnerable and intimate is in. My control . The coolest thing about the workshop was that the class was made up of all kinds of couples …couples that have been married for 60 years, couples that were on their 3rd marriages, couples who were not yet married. What was so interesting is almost all of had similar relationship problems..at any and every age the daily relationship quandary was shockingly the same. it was really amazing to see the young and old just open their hearts and share their version of the story. It was such an intimate, honest and vulnerable setting .
This workshop really really helped me sty focus on what I can control. Like I am usually a scatter brain..constantly thinking about the next thing and pondering on what I did not have Instead of just staying in the present moment; I learned the power of staying in the present moment and just really focusing on what I have control over instead of thinking about things that happened In the past and or things that I have not yet accomplished
The power of focusing on what we can control is all in what is with in our means..what action steps can we take now…what choice can I make in this moment? It takes away the expectation part of it..the attachment to outcome and it focuses on the things you can do instead.
If you want to be happy..you have control over your happiness..how happy you want to be..what you can do to be happy!
If you want to have financial freedom…you have control over how you can budget your money..how you can save and spend !
If you want to have a healthy life style..you have control over your habits..what you eat..how many times your move around..how many times you work out !
If you want to have a job that you love..you have the control over identifying what that job is, getting the experience necessary for the job, researching on how to connect with someone who can help you get in the door.
What I am saying here is that you are truly in control of the choices and actions that you take. Taking control and only focusing on the things you can control will give you your life and energy back. Its so easy to get trapped in the I have no control over this…and blaming someone outside of your self because your life is not how you want it be. Change your compliant into actions..focus only on things YOU can do… really..you have so much control over what you can do with your life….don’t let things that you can't control control you.
XOXO
The Soulful Migrant